“It's okay to outgrow people you thought would make it to the end.”

Not every relationship is meant to last forever. Sometimes we hold on because of the history, the memories, or who we thought we were to each other. But as we grow and become more self-aware, our values and needs naturally change, and sometimes the people around us don’t grow in the same direction or at the same pace. Holding on to what used to be can keep us from becoming who we’re trying to be.

Think of that favourite shirt you used to love. It was your go-to for a long time… until it wasn’t. Not because it was bad, it just didn’t fit you the same anymore. That’s what happens with people too. Nothing is wrong; it's just changes.

Signs you may have outgrown someone:

• No longer have similar interests

• You feel misunderstood more than understood

• You avoid sharing what really matters to you

• You leave interactions feeling heavy, not supported

• You stop looking forward to spending time with them

Outgrowing people doesn’t make you cold or ungrateful; it makes you honest about who you’re becoming. Some connections were meant to walk with you for a chapter, not a lifetime. And as you grow, your needs, values, and boundaries grow with you. Letting go isn’t a failure; it’s a sign that you’re making space for relationships that support the person you are now, not the person you had to be to keep others comfortable.

– Casaya James